father`s day

`so now that everyone has their father as their dp, check your watsapp contacts to make sure you are not your firend`s step mum.'

This was one of the many snipped comments perhaps the best that went viral on watsapp on father`s day. I must say, whoever wrote it, kuddos. I imagine they are a few who heeded by that same advice and found it to be truly useful. Others might have been in for the surprise, yes, there are others who might also have realized that the people they were dating are their `distant sisters or brothers` if such things exist. All the same thanks to such a day or a week for such truths.

So in the so likely case that as you were scrolling, you realized that your so called hubby/ sugar daddy/ boyfriend/ cross generational friend/ boyfriend father/ friend`s father and therefore father, which makes you your friend`s step mother/ her mother who is also your mother`s co-wife, I would pay for the look on your face. Trouble is that this is not such an unlikely phenomena from even the various confessions I have had on radio.

I would love to ask the men, the fathers we were celebrating, but also our, peers in terms of the women we are dating, what is the problem? Is it some new mentorship scheme that has grown in the 21st century, where as we should admit many things are in the making? And to the young girls, are the young men your age short of sight, size or stature to meet your standards?

To slow with the questions, I should say that time tells stories. Yes speed has become such a thing of value that we forget which things should take time and which others should not. If he is driving a range rover at 50 and you want to ride along, when he lies still and 55 you may just follow or not. I wish I knew how to end this, all I can say anyway is, patience pays. Young lady, young man, work and wait your time is yet to come. We love you fathers who are fathers and not other things.

a girl`s letter

'Dear future husband, here is a few things you need to know if u wanna be ma one and only all ma life, take me on a date, don’t forget flowers every anniversary, u gotta know how to treat me like a lady even wen am acting crazy tell me everything is alryt, if u wanna get that special kind of treatment tell me am beautiful each and evrynyt, after evry fyt, just apologize coz you know am ryt even if I am wrong make tym for me dnt leave me lonely, buy me a ring.'

The actual words of a girl desperate or maybe not, but to have a man who treats her right, like a lady, who loves her like the angel she is. She is tired of men who behave as if they are monsters, the liars, the cheats. She has had it all, in fact she has been hurt by countless boys who call themselves men. She is reformed and despite all that has happened to her she is a repentant soul. She is waiting on God, she is waiting for the right man to pursue her. She has decided to dress appropriately, to be in places worth a lady of her stature. No more will you find her bent over and pushing hard in front of a man`s groins in club. No more will you find her staggering with a bottle in her hands. She is reformed. In fact she no longer pumps up her breasts for the perfect cleavage. And when her husband comes, she is well deserved, she is the gem he has been looking for. He will treat her right, just as she wishes.

No, this girl is noble. She has waited all her life for the knight in shining armor. She is pure, beautiful. She has her priorities right. She is hardworking. She is the woman this knight has had his mind set to find. He has searched and finally he has found her. It is therefore imperative to hold her dear. He has it natural to tell her how beautiful she is. He cannot afford to have her cry. He will do anything, anything to put a ring on her finger.

Or this girl desires all these things. She does not stop at that, she still desires the `life` so she will post a  photo every two hours on social media of her in some sort of skimpy attire, with her lips pouted. She will be seen in the news for her roundness and her beautiful eyes. And when the night comes, every man shall want to lay his hands on her. Now, what about the knight?, shall he fight for such a one? Shall he protect such a one?

I was never called to scrutinize or reply such a letter, but I will answer anyway. Do not ask, because that is unfair to your dear husband. Deserve, and if he does not act accordingly, he is guilty of more than murder. Remember you attract what you are.

facing the sun

I touch the air searching for you

And my hands melt in their own touch

I scramble in the darkness so I can touch a slight,

A slight hint of awesomeness at some end

And my tunnel is closed

Because you remain silent

Like a breaking rose, you frail

I want again to hold you

Cover your petals under my arms

I want to cloud your mind with beautiful thoughts

Clones of our own fairy tales

Flood your memory with weighted fluff

So we can disappear at the first taste

I search the distances for your heart

To free it from worlds where its cowed

I want to give you the assurance

That I am different

Like standing with the sun behind me

I have my edges highlighted,

In the sight of another angel

To look clean for you

I am the one,

I am not sure I deserve you

I am the one here

With willingness that matches a heroes

I am here for you

Look at me, the silhouette of a man

Who faces the sun to catch you

innocent creations, the meaning

like baby steps, as he stands and falls, losses balance, trembles as he struggles to stand. the same way he rises after each fall with little fear but hope, hope he giggles with joy when he manages to run to his mother. how he spreads his arms ahead of those red blinking shoes. the sun shines aupon such.

as a leaf rises out of the ground with the first rain and it begins to unfold, when the warmth of the ground beaneath exposes him to the elements of the world. when he begins to open up to feel the beauty of the calm air he breathes. as he trembles in the wind and still stands.

so is the story, and if we can have a glimpse at the six days of creation to see how it all unfolded, how the stars were birthed, the whale`s first breathe as he rose out of the ocean, or the dolphin`s first swim over the edge that separates air form liquid. how the first eagle unfolded her wings and took to the sky. the lion`s first roar in the jungle as he assumed ultimate power and the girraffe as he towered over those overtly tall branches to eat and glimpsed the first green horizon in the distance to watch the sun come over the land.

there was no fear, there is no fear as we try and again start, there is purity in creation, a silence that breaks boundaries, there is a measure of beauty when the first chuckle crosses our ears. thats how we innocently create. and with words also.

wisdom

He calls out to all men, from everywhere, he shouts out. Wisdom awaits those who seek, those who shall stop at nothing but the real deal.

At the end of the year…I shall ask myself, have I gained understanding, reason, knowledge or found wisdom. And in these things wisdom manifests. In the fear of God it begins. In the hearing of reproach it grows. In pride in withers. In righteousness it prospers. In truth wisdom is sustained. In a good wife a man finds his prize, and there is not a greater gift that man gets on earth than a woman who fears the Lord.

In the shadow of the almighty the righteous find refuge, and there is no fear in his presence. A wise man will slowly but steadily become rich, and his blessing the Lord only adds. So the one who plans and the one who waits on God, they are weighed on the same scale, but the Lord makes the final decision.

Disgusting in the eyes of both man and God, are the unjust judge, the false witness, the wicked, the fool and the haggard who becomes poor. Let them drink to their own destruction, as they struggle to forget their worries. The mocker will also follow along and may find companion in the arms of a bitter woman.

The ruthless and shrewd become rich. So does the righteous man whose inheritance generations share. The work of your hands, the gift that God gave you and pleasant words, they make the path of a man smoother. Delight then in knowledge of purpose and let understanding lead your way.

Too wonderful is soaring as the eagle, cunningness of the snake, ruthlessness of the ship on the ocean and how amazing are man`s ways with a woman. Too hard to behold too difficult to deal with, as a servant seated on the throne, a satisfied fool, an unloved woman and a servant who dispossess her mistress.

A wise man will dine with kings, and so will a gifted person. The rich may strut like a cock, the Godly are fearless as a lion, a fool may stumble as a male goat, but like a king with his army, is a man who has God at heart.

Wisdom is, knowledge of God. And the reward to a man is a Godly wife. So there are three things important to a man, GOD, who gives him wisdom and with wisdom a man may become wealthy, and lastly, a God fearing woman, who he gets as a reward for all his faithfulness. And for a woman, these things are noble, Fear of God that births wisdom, hard work that builds a household and her reward in life, a man who loves her truly.

Happy new year, hope you gained wisdom the previous year.